Sometimes we act like we’re walking blindly through traffic when it comes to modern dating (I know I do). All of us have different expectations when interacting with those around us, especially in a more intimate manner. While spending time with someone, there are certain things you can do to make yourself as appealing as possible.
A recent study by Huawei had some pretty damn interesting results about our own dating etiquettes. 1,000 Australian singles were surveyed, and there are some cheeky rules that you may want to follow for your next date night.
#1 Put Down ‘Ya Phone
Our phones have come to be an extension of ourselves, and without them we tend to feel naked. While 70% of us seem think it’s all dandy to use a phone on a date, it might be good to leave it on the table untouched. If you’re wanting to connect further with the person in front of you, it’s hard to do that when eye contact is lacking, and your attention is elsewhere. How would you feel if you were taking the time to say something important, only to have what you said go ignored due to a Facebook notification being checked? Every time this happens to me my soul dies a little. Aim to make your date feel acknowledged. At the end of the day your phone can’t like you back.
#2 Pick An Appropriate Location
Before the date commences, think about where the most effective place to have it would be. The movies, for instance, leaves barely any room for conversation, nor does a club setting with loud bangers. Not only do you have to take your tastes into consideration, but also the other person’s, so it may even be worthwhile asking for their preferences. Strive for a place where you can settle in and relax without many distractions. An intimate bar, for example, may be good with providing softer acoustic music, appetisers, and tasty bevs to help with the nervous jitters.
#3 Have A Subtle Stalk
One of the perks of modern dating is that you can put your stalking skills to good use and have a look through your date’s social media prior to going out with them (don’t be ashamed, 80% of us do it). By doing this you’ll gather an idea on your guy or gal’s hobbies, lifestyle or travel antics, which are great topics for breaking the ice. The beauty of a sneaky stalk is that it can remain your little secret, and you’ll be able to go into the date prepared with an outline of topics to ask about. You’ll appear to be quite the conversational wizard with a genuine interest in getting to know the person. PSA just avoid going too creepy; that south coast trip they did with their ex? Yeah maybe leave that one out of the chats.
#4 Share The Spotlight
It’s nice and exciting when someone wants to get to know you, however it’s good to remember to share the spotlight of conversation while on a date. It can be easy to get carried away when the topic of conversation is your life but dating is a two-way street. You don’t have to bombard the other person with your life story, just let the conversation flow naturally between one another. Nothing is worse than a date that doesn’t let you get a word in.
#5 Don’t Dismiss The Group Date
If you want to take some of the pressure off the both of you, work your way out of the one-on-one setting by going on a group date. Having other friends around can act as a conversation buffer, and 66% of people say that a group environment is less intimidating due to there being less uncomfortable pauses in conversation. The more relaxed and personable you are, the more likely a second date will become. Keep an eye out for group dating events that will ease the pressure, too. Dating is meant to be enjoyable, so remember to have a laugh and not get to caught up in trying to impress.