A breakup between partners isn’t a great time, and can cause a great deal of grief. So, who do you turn to when this happens? Often, it’s our instinct to approach someone who knows us like the back of their hand, in particular, a best mate.
But what happens when you and your best friend are the ones going through the breakup? If anything, this can be even more painful than breaking up with a partner. There’s a good chance you’ve faced this dilemma, so we’ve teamed up with headspace to bring you a few ways in which you may be able to get through it, as part of our I Can’t Even Deal RN series. You got this.
Talk It Over With Your Friend
Believe it or not, talking to your friend about the constant state of your relationship is a very viable option. It can be hard to get your feelings across at the best of times, but especially on the back of such an emotional period. So chatting to a friend about it could provide you with the closure you need to assist in dealing with the new-found distance. You’d both be able to talk about your perceptions and come to a conclusion about the overall friendship. You might find reality is much less scary than your imagination. And even if it doesn’t go the way you’d hoped, closure can be important to help you move forward.
Connect With Others
For the love of God, do not isolate yourself, peeps. This will make the entire loss that much worse (trust me.) The key to maintaining your sanity is to get out of the house and spend time with others who you know you’ll have a good time with. They may be keen to listen to your woes and offer a fresh perspective on the whole friendship debacle.
Don’t React Maliciously
If the friendship breakup is due to a fight or mass drama, it’s best to try and reign in the malicious intent. A snarky attitude gets you nowhere and helps absolutely no one. While you may want to rip their hair out (not recommended, just picture it instead?) resist the temptation. If you want to send them a long rant on how awful they are, try and resist going through with that too. The aim is to be as mature as possible (super hard to do sometimes, but a good learning curve).
Keep The Bigger Picture In Mind
No matter why you and your best mate are distancing yourselves, it’s probably happening for a reason. Maybe you and your mate are growing apart as you progress in age. Though they’re still in your heart and you love them, you’re discovering that you don’t have as much in common as what you used too. Remember that this is completely natural and that it’s probably neither of your faults. It’s almost guaranteed that you’ll meet someone in the future who compliments you in ways that your other pal never could have.
Losing a mate can be a tough one. Maybe you’re looking to ditch someone who has been dragging you along, maybe you’re on the end of a confronting chat. Either way, it sucks and it can take a bit of a toll. So here are few tips to help with those tougher days from our friends at headspace. Some short term pain for long term gain.
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