So, you’ve been seeing someone for a while, and you’ve started to get pretty cozy. Maybe you’ve talked about moving in together, maybe someone’s joked about marriage once or twice. Perhaps one of you unthinkingly dropped in a reference to kids and you both realised that it didn’t freak you out. Basically, you’ve found someone who doesn’t run for the hills at the thought of a long term commitment and a five year plan.
Congratulations! You my friend have found the relationship jackpot. It’s an increasingly rare find in the age of Tinder and Bumble. But how do you know if the one you’re with is The One? Between the infinite number of app based options, the societal pressure to be young and sow your oats, and the ever present urge to drop your whole life and travel the world (just me?), the idea of settling down can be unnerving.
But I’m here to help you clear your way through the fog and find out if you’re in it for a long time, not just a good time.
The Idea Of Marriage And Babies Doesn’t Freak You Out
Now I’m not talking about doing it right now, I just mean in general. If you look at your partner and think that you could see yourself procreating with them in the future, it’s a pretty good sign you could be in it with them for the long haul. Of course, for those of us who ovulate, just give your cycle a cheeky check, you could just be fertile af and in full blown baby brain.
You Have Super Healthy Conflict Management Skills
This is a pretty dry one, but hear me out. If my mum has taught me anything, it’s that your relationship’s biggest strength is how you handle your weakest moments. If you’re going to be spending the rest of your life with this person, then you need to be able to overcome a whole boat load of shit. Having healthy and effective conflict resolution and communication is a clear sign that you work well as a couple.
The Sex Is Amazing
Great sex is by no means a sign of a good relationship. You can have great sex with a total stranger, that doesn’t mean they’re your forever. But if you have a good relationship, you get the warm fuzies when they’re around, you can imagine your picket fence future, AND the sex is mind blowing, then it’s just in your best interests to lock. That. Shit. Down.
You Love The Bastard
Love is a pretty important part of this equation. I’m not saying that love is forever, or that it never peaks and wanes, but if you look at them and feel all warm and toasties and loved up then that’s a pretty good sign. Telling someone you love them is one of life’s most exhilarating and terrifying moments. But once you do it, and they say it back, and you know it’s true, there’s nothing quite like it.
You Just Know
They say when you know, you know. Y’know? It could be as simple as waking up one day, rolling over, kissing them even though their morning breath is terrible, and then, BOOM. There it is. They’re The One.
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