It’s probably one of the most infamous dating trends in well, the history of dating. For those of you living under a rock, a rebound is that classic person that you find after the tumultuous heartbreak of a recent breakup. They are the person you hop into a relationship with to prove either; a) you’re totally over your ex, b) you’re still 100% in the dating game or c) you’re not a desperate single looking for love. Whatever the reason for your rebound, we often don’t actual contemplate the fact that a rebound is normally a really bad idea. It not only can take a huge toll on your mental state but it also toys around with another humans emotions. So rather than latching on to the next person that gives you a second glance, here are some reasons why you shouldn’t rebound.
Allow Yourself Time To Heal And Be Single
There is absolutely no rush to jump back into the dating game straight after a breakup. If you have this notion of a competition in mind between you and your ex and who can jump into the bed the fastest, well grow the f*ck up. I’m sorry to be blunt, but sleeping around and finding company in the next best thing is not going to heal your heart. Allowing yourself time to heal from a breakup is healthy. Cry, be angry, go party, start a blog, it doesn’t matter how you express your emotions, just remember to let them out. Whether it was a relationship of a few months or a few years, giving yourself time to be single is good. Remember what it’s like to have some good quality alone time. Nurture yourself, and become the best version of you, you can be.
You Will Toy With Someone Else’s Emotions
In your head it’s just a rebound; to someone else it could be the start of the rest of their lives. Rebounds are most of the time one sided, and while you think you aren’t making a commitment to someone for the rest of your life, the other person might feel the exact opposite. Remember if you’re about to embark on a new relationship a few weeks after a break up, you are bringing someone else into some very sensitive territory. Think twice about pledging your heart.
The Attraction Might Just Be Temporary
So you think you’ve found the one? The one who came along a month after you ended it with your ex of four years. They’re everything you’ve been looking for; smart funny, way too attractive and the best bit, they are totally into you. The chances are, those instant attractions might be temporary. They might have been the perfect person to hit up for a few dates and a good time, but maybe not relationship material, but now you find yourself deep into one. I’m not saying second guess everything, but do really think about whether this persons is more than just an instant attraction
You Are Most Than Your Relationship
This overlaps with the first point, but do remember, being in a relationship doesn’t define you as a person. So you might be getting older and you might think time is running out, but forget the exterior pressures and focus on all the good things in your life. Defining yourself by your last relationship or even your next one will not bring you happiness (as cliché as that sounds). Work on strengthening the other bonds in your life. The greater time you spend doing this, the more successful you’ll be when you’re actually ready to jump back into the dating game.
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