Warning. I’m about to say the “F” word in Three… Two… One…
Failure. Yep you heard me, I am going to put forth to you today that failure is the most stigmatised “F” word there is. Since birth we are pushed to be winners and go-getters because there’s no prize for second place. Why do we hold onto to failure and give it power over our lives? If you nailed your dream job you would go out and celebrate right? Well what about when you don’t. Here’s some strategies on how you can make peace with failing rather than holding onto it.
Pick Up A New Hobby
Dwelling on failure can dramatically hold you back and prevent you from going for future opportunities. Try to focus on something that is beneficial for your health and gets your mind set in a positive place again.
Yoga, pole dancing and meditation are great ways to relax and unwind after a stressful day (or week). YogaBar in Sydney has a tonne of locations and exciting classes to choose from when you need to hit reset.
Treat Yourself To A Night In
Cook yourself a nice meal, pull out your favourite movie and relax. Don’t beat yourself up about not achieving your goal within a ridiculously short time span, take a night off to treat yourself. Value your mental health and take some time to be thankful for all the great things in your life rather than spiteful for opportunities that you have missed.
You Failed But You Are Not A Failure
We all have to stop taking failure so personally. If it weren’t for failure, we would never grow. Think of failure not as falling flat, but rather a learning experience. If you interview for a job and don’t get it off the bat, no stress. You could walk back into that office in a few years time and nail the interview. Your experience will mean you better yourself, plus the interviewer doesn’t know you or your story. Sometime failure is also out of your control.
Don’t Compare Yourself To Other People
It’s not your fault, we are pretty much programmed to seek approval from others and be envious of people who seem to have everything. At the end of the day your mates are probably too caught up in their own lives to keep track of your success and failures. This is a good thing, stop dwelling on how other people perceive you and just do the best you can.
Try Harder Next Time
Set yourself reasonable goals for the future and don’t be disheartened to go for that same role again. Treat failure as a delay in achieving your dream not a defeat. The only sure fire way is to not experience failure is to stay at home and not do nothing all day. Lets remove the stigma associated with failure and be thankful for the learning experiences that come with it.