In today’s episode of “Why are men like this?” 39 year old rapper T.I just revealed on podcast Ladies Like Us that he takes his daughter Deyjah Harris to a gyno every year to check her hymen.
Yes, we’re serious.
He told the podcast hosts that every year, after her birthday, he forcibly takes his daughter Deyjah Harris to a gyno where he gets her hymen checked to ensure that she’s still a virgin. He bragged that as of her most recent birthday when she turned 18, her hymen is still intact.
Um, WTF? How Is That Okay?
More people need to be talking about #deyjahharris because this is disturbing
— orange (@oirjfoierfjoi) November 6, 2019
Well, it’s really not. First of all, there’s the obvious fact that Deyjah is an adult woman who can do what she wants, and we don’t exist in the 18th century. On top of that, she clearly doesn’t have a choice in sharing her results with her father, even though at her age she has the right to medical confidentiality.
For some reason, T.I openly discussed their doctor expressing concerns over Deyjah’s privacy and the legal issues around giving him the results of her test.
“I’m like, ‘Deyjah, they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you would not want me to know? See, Doc? Ain’t no problem.'”
If it wasn’t gross enough that he essentially bullied both his adult daughter and the doctor into signing away privacy rights that he’s not entitled to, he also mocks the doctor’s attempts at explaining how unreliable hymen testing is.
Oh she’s 18? I guess that means sharing any medical info with her dad without her permission is now a HIPAA violation
— Mike Puterbaugh (@mike_puterbaugh) November 6, 2019
Is Hymen Testing Even A Legit Thing?
No, it’s not. It’s been widely condemned by medical professionals as arbitrary, unreliable and pointless. Hymen testing doesn’t actually tell you if someone is a virgin – many sexually active women have intact hymens, while other girls who aren’t sexually active but have engaged in some physical activity can have a stretched or torn hymen.
The hymen means nothing physically and hymen exams are medically not a thing and are unnecessary. And support a disgusting patriarchal trope. 11/12 pic.twitter.com/D1EjoqZeiB
— Jennifer Gunter (@DrJenGunter) November 6, 2019
Even the World Health Organisation denounced it as “a violation of human rights.”
Deyjah Harris’ gynaecologist seems to know this, as T.I explained that the doctor told him hymens can break in many non-sexual ways.
“And so then they come and say, ‘Well, I just want you to know that there are other ways besides sex that the hymen can be broken like bike riding, athletics, horseback riding, and just other forms of athletic physical activity,'” T.I said.
“So I say, ‘Look, Doc, she don’t ride no horses, she don’t ride no bike, she don’t play no sports. Just check the hymen, please, and give me back my results expeditiously.'”
“give me my results” first of all mf, those are HER results!! Like WTF
— My Love Goes BANG BANG BANG (@ItsMeeeeeDreaB) November 6, 2019
Obvs This Got Huge Backlash, And GOOD
The internet has exploded with concerns for Deyjah Harris, and also the fact that T.I feels he is so entitled to his creepy and disturbing behaviour that he can brag about it to the public. What kind of society allows and normalises that behaviour?
Also the fact that TI revealed this unashamedly really shows how the control of women’s bodies and the sexualization of minors, especially girls, is both commonplace and accepted in our society
— 𝑺𝒁𝑨’𝒔 𝑪𝒐𝒍𝒐𝒓𝒆𝒅 𝑾𝒊𝒈 (@sammyhammy727) November 6, 2019
Hymen exam? Say what? What is wrong with people? We are headed for another dark ages.
— Randy Kiriluk (@RKiriluk) November 6, 2019
asking a doctor to check your daughter to see if she has been having sex is humiliating & sick af.
& you can’t even always tell by a broken hymen. you can break your hymen by hurting yourself on a bike seat.
— patrisha (@patrishaluxe) November 6, 2019
On top of that, T.I has previously expressed that he doesn’t hold this same standard for his sons, and that he’s okay with them having sex whenever the time is right. He seems to only control the sexuality of his daughters.
Clifford Harris is insane but we been knew. This man used to take his sons to SPY on Zonnique whenever she went out on dates.. so I can only imagine what Deyjah gets outside of the world knowing that he forcibly took her to the GYN after her 16th birthday.
— dreadgaawd. ☥❣️ (@_RastaGyalAsh) November 6, 2019
I’ll say it. TI sounds like he wants Deyjah Harris all to himself. It’s pedo incestuous red flags all over him acting like he owns his 18 year old daughters vagina/ hymen or any part of her body.
— Mean Emo Thottie (@LeoAriesLibra) November 6, 2019
This is absolutely disgusting and perverted and vile and ignorant and just plain wrong. TI is a sick, controlling narcissist and there is absolutely NO way Deyjah, her mother or any woman in TI’s life should be okay with this. https://t.co/tDjVdAoSom
— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) November 6, 2019
People were also concerned about what would happen to Deyjah Harris if her hymen was ever found to be torn or stretched.
So, if Deyjah’s hymen wasn’t intact, what was Clifford Harris going to do? What are the consequences? pic.twitter.com/npdQYKSYKL
— Hand to the legends Arya and Tony Stark. (@803BG) November 6, 2019
Deyjah Harris Has Been Liking Comments Supporting Her And Honestly We’re Concerned
Deyjah Harris has been liking Tweets condemning her father’s abusive and controlling behaviour, and we’re honestly worried about her. Girl, are you okay? Hopefully she gets the justice and respect she deserves.
deyjah harris liking the comments is her cry for help. that is all
— ever ♡ (@doujinsushis) November 6, 2019
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