So, I’ll freely admit that reality TV is my guilty pleasure. Keeping Up With The Kardashians; The Bachelor/Bachelorette/Bachelor in Paradise; even Big Brother this year. I love it, and I can’t stop watching. But this year’s season of Bachelor in Paradise has me floored, and not in a good way.
Sure, it has been an entertaining season to watch. But the bullying and the bitchiness is just next level, and I’m not here for it. From episode one, you could clearly see the bullying, and particularly the slut shaming, towards Abbie Chatfield.
During her stint on Matt Agnew’s season of The Bachelor last year, Abbie copped some pretty harsh comments from both the women inside the house, and from the media and the public once the season aired. And this season of Bachelor in Paradise was no different.
In a few clips shared by the Bachelor in Paradise Facebook page on Tuesday, we were given a look inside the cabanas, and we finally saw what the cast thinks when they think the cameras aren’t rolling. Hint hint: it’s not all rainbows and smiles here.
The bullying on this show is just messed up. Even after Abbie left, Cass and Mary were still going in on her. These are grown women putting down another woman for no reason other than they just don’t like her, and because she wore a bikini in the pool. Sure, we don’t all have to like everyone, but cmon, were the comments necessary?
After the above footage was posted, Abbie took to her Instagram stories to share some of her thoughts about the whole experience.
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The girl was vindicated. There was finally proof that this shit was happening.
If you aren’t a follower of Abbie’s, I’ll tell you now that for the last year, she has been saying that she was bullied in the house. No one really believed her. I’ll admit that I didn’t either. I believed the villain edit that she was given on TV. But her podcast and Instagram account showed me another side, one that feels more real.
When I watched her story about this the other day, my first thought was that she looked relieved. That the past year of trying to tell people what happened inside the house finally got somewhere. We can all clearly see that a lot of the women from her season bullied her on Bachelor in Paradise, and who’s to say that that didn’t happen in The Bachelor house last year too.
okay but can we talk about how 2 women over the age of 30 are bullying a 24 year old, abbie chatfield deserves better and these women need to go to therapy and solve some internalised misogyny x #BachelorInParadiseAU
— kyra (@_kyrahicks) July 22, 2020
I only watched half of the episode thus evening and I am so beyond disappointed with how these “fully grown women” are still BULLYING AND ATTACKING the same girl all while the producers and editors are allowing it to happen for ratings. #BachelorInParadiseAU
— schmoney (@sidschmoney) July 16, 2020
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: I’m tired of women putting down other women. I’m tired of bullying and slut shaming being given a national platform, because it only encourages the behaviour. Sure, people may see a bully on TV and know that it’s wrong, but they’ll then go and DM that person to say even worse things. And that isn’t okay either.
Women putting down other women happens every day, especially with the public towards TV personalities, and enough is enough.When it comes to competition shows where women are supposed to be pitted against one another, there’s even more of a reason to lift one another up, not tear each other down.
Image Source: Channel 10 (Bachelor in Paradise)