The recent Keeping Up With The Kardashians episode was absolutely brimming with piping hot tea. Khloe Kardashian finally addressed the cheating scandal between Jordyn Woods and Tristan Thompson, and how that impacted the family.
In going through the episode so that I could summarise all the goss for you guys, I noticed one awful detail that no one seems to be talking about.
When Khloe Kardashian found out Tristan cheated, she claims he threatened to kill himself if she didn’t talk to him.
Um, WTF? Khloe relayed his text messages, saying “he said, ‘I can’t stop thinking about you and the mess I’ve caused.’ He’s doing this to get a reaction out of me. Like, so he’s just allowed to say, ‘I’m going to kill myself’ at any time? That’s crazy and so unfair.”
It’s brought up once more when Khloe gets a mate to check up on Tristan, and that’s pretty much it.
I was honestly shocked, and am still kind of reeling at the fact that we don’t seem to be talking much about what a red flag that is?
Tristan threatening to kill himself after cheating with Jordyn is actually disgusting & typical manipulative men behavior. Absolute trash 🚮 #kuwtk
— ayeshaaaa ♡ (@eishebabyyy) June 24, 2019
Threatening to kill yourself if your partner doesn’t stay in your toxic relationship is an actual form of emotional abuse. It is a red flag for emotionally abusive relationships, but it is legitimately abuse on it’s own. Emotional abuse needs to be taken as seriously as physical abuse (which we know isn’t taken seriously enough itself), and this is a tragic yet important opportunity to get into that conversation.
I’m just screaming ‘RED FLAG’ at this point. Not that we need any more red flags from Tristan since he’s obviously a serial cheater, but like… that level of manipulation is terrifying and needs to be discussed.
Khloe recognises how cooked it is when she says that it’s crazy and unfair, and she’s right. She was angry and upset, and he manipulated her emotions in order to make himself the victim and guilt her into talking to him. It was a calculated move in order to take advantage of her vulnerability, and it should be treated as abuse because it is.
PSA: Threatening to commit suicide after getting caught cheating is a form of emotional abuse. #KUWTK
— Ebony da Goomba (@eb_thom) June 24, 2019
Khloe Kardashian was right – it’s crazy that Tristan said that to her. It’s unfair because it puts the burden of his safety and mental health onto her after he has just hurt and betrayed her. It takes away his own responsibility on the matter, and it makes him the victim rather than her. I’m glad Khloe called it out, but she still checked up on him because how could you not? That’s how he manipulated her.
It was his way of not giving her a choice – she would have been too scared of potential consequences to ignore something like that. This is actually textbook abusive behaviour.
Rare footage of Tristan Thompson trying to kill himself after Khloe found out about him cheating 🙄🖕🏾#livinghisbestlife #kuwtk pic.twitter.com/lkTnosHNJz
— Ms Adams (@LittleMzMercy) June 24, 2019
It can be really hard to recognise the signs of abusive behaviour when they don’t leave physical marks. Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse, and unfortunately just as, if not more common.
Guilt-tripping to the extreme level that Tristan did is designed to make the victim take blame for anything that the abuser does. It can usually lead to things like “well if you didn’t upset me, I wouldn’t have hurt you/myself.”
The way we so casually talk about serious manipulation and emotional abuse needs to change. It’s dangerous and makes it seem like less of a deal than it is. Let’s make sure to call out toxic behaviour when we see it, and keep each other safe from manipulative and gas-lighting behaviour.
Image Sources: Twitter @LittleMzMercy, @eb_thom, @@eishebabyyy, GIPHY, Khloe Kardashian Facebook.