To hell with those people that fade out of your life just as fast they rocked up, even when it was totally unannounced. Who invited them? And why do they have the hide to ghost us when we weren’t even interested in their boring little asses anyway? They’re the ones that got away when really, we never had any intention to make them stay.
Dealing with a ghoster can bring a whole torrent of unwanted emotional torment. We’ve all been there before. You meet someone, they’re kinda interesting but also not really. You continue to play the game for a while, knowing you’ll make a quick exit soon enough. But then you’re the one left hanging, You’re the one that gets ghosted.
The whole scenario comes out of nowhere and the consequent backlash is made worse because you’re emotionally unprepared. You’re raging and ranting because you had your exit plan all down pat before someone had to come and hit the escape button first. So if we were planning to ghost them anyway, why do we get so insulted when the other does the dirty on us?
You were warming up to the feeling of being in control before JOKES it’s pulled out from underneath you. To be ghosted is to be reminded of a very important thing. Love is wild ride, honeys. The other person is also capable of whoopin’ your ass and your emotional investment will be compromised in the process.
Like I said, the emotional backlash from a ghosting incident only exists because you’re not prepared. You don’t have your self care routine figured out and you certainly haven’t prepare a list of confidence-boosting one liners to propel you back into single life. The jokes on you girlfriend for not having your armour ready.
Maybe you realised your *used to be* S/O hasn’t messaged you for a while. Maybe they’ve culled all meme tagging activity. Whatever the sign of the ghost incident is, you’re raged and insulted. You’re shocked and upset. These emotions add fuel to your already burning fire of crushed ego. The post-ghost rage has you wanting to retaliate when you don’t even have the privilege to.
Key takeaway: live life to the fullest kids because you never know what’s around that bloody corner. A plot twist could have you being ghosted and insulted, even when you didn’t like the ghoster.
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