It’s 2018 and you’ve got your eyes on someone, but you’re worried you’ll die of old age before they ask you out. What do you do? Make yourself known, of course. Here’s our definitive guide to making the first move.
Love Yourself First
It’s so easy to make the innocent mistake of thinking that a relationship can compensate for the lack of love you feel for yourself. You have to love yourself first before you can expect anyone else to. By entering a relationship with the expectation that your self-worth will miraculously increase is ambitious, but not always realistic. It’s far more likely that things will fall short if you are looking for love rather than focussing on your love for yourself and the love that you can give.
Let Them Know You Exist
Silently crushing on someone isn’t likely to illicit a date with them. Introduce yourself and keep things casual. You might want to think about starting by consistently making an effort to say hi to them and then working up to asking them questions about themselves. The most important thing here is to make sure there’s definitely potential for a connection, by asking yourself is there chemistry? If you start talking to them and realise you have nothing in common, then move onto the next guy and try again. The more you do this, the sooner you’ll realise what qualities are important to you in a potential partner, not to mention build your self-confidence tremendously.
Confidence Is Key
Confidence is sexy. Take initiative, make the first move and show everyone around you that you are comfortable in your own skin. Confidence is definitely a skill that can take a bit of practice, so it’s totally okay to fake it ’til you make it in situations like this.
Cut To The Chase
So you’re feeling good about yourself, you’ve made an impression and you’ve decided to take the next step. Now it’s time to get to the point. If there’s any kind of ambiguity when you’re trying to ask him out he might get the wrong idea about what your intentions are so make sure you use direct language with both your names and the word ‘date’. We also recommend asking him out in person rather than on social media to avoid ‘read-receipt’ awkwardness.
Use What You Know
If you’ve talked about your mutual interests, suggest a date-idea that you know you will both enjoy. We recommend something casual where you can chat, so a trip to the movies probably wouldn’t be ideal unless you’re both film enthusiasts.
Take Rejection With A Grain Of Salt
At the end of the day, every failed romance helps you get closer to someone that you’re actually meant to be with. Don’t take it personally and have the courage to try again. Whether you’ve been crushing on a mate or a complete stranger, we hope you find these tips useful for navigating the complicated world of dating and love.