Let me start this off by saying that long distance sucks. Like it really sucks. I’ve been in one for a while now, and while I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, it’s been a rough trot.
Being long distance can put a toll on the relationship. Especially if you’re used to getting a lil lovin’ on the reg, suddenly being miles apart is jarring. From vastly different timetables, to potential time differences, here’s all the best ways to make it work when you’re long distance.
#1 Utilise Your Tech
Snapchat was basically designed for sending sexy snaps. FaceTime is the best way to feel together when you’re apart. Messenger is as easy as sending a silly gif just to let your honey know you’re thinking about them. In this day and age, there really is no excuse for not being contactable, so use and abuse that to the nth degree.
#2 Keep Your Chill
Being apart can cause the suspicion and jealousy metre to go through the roof. Whether it’s an “out with friends, chat later” text, or an Insta story with people you don’t know looking too cozy for your liking, it can be easy to fall into the trap. Try to keep your head and don’t be too accusatory. Unless you feel you have a real reason to go off, try to stay cool, calm, and collected.
#3 Get Creative
Write and post a hand written love letter. Put together a care package. Make a playlist of important songs. Little acts of service show thoughtfulness and care, and are bound to fill bae with all kinds of warm fuzzies. Trading little love notes and presents tap into that old school love that can reinvigorate something special. Plus, who doesn’t love receiving mail?
#4 Tell Each Other All The Naaaasty Things You Think
Not to get too TMI, but I went through a stage where if I thought something sexy about my partner, I told them. Out of the blue, and often in excruciating detail. Sure, this often meant phone screens on the lowest brightness and face down At. All. Times. But it also meant that any time my phone buzzed, I got a little thrill of excitement. It’s like all the best bits of foreplay.
#5 Plan As Many Visits As Possible
This one is not always possible, especially if they’re on the other side of the world and you’re strapped for cash. But if you can, try to make sure you guys see each other whenever you can. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder. But prolonged distance can just feel like torture. Take turns making the trip. If you can afford it, do something special once or twice. Your heart (and ya booooody) will thank you for it.
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