The beginnings of a new relationship are the most fun and exciting times. You’re young and in lust and all you want to do is rip each other’s clothes off. ALL. OF. THE. TIME. But it’s easy to drop off the face of the Earth and totally lose yourself in your new relationship.
As your relationship progresses, it’s easy to find yourself falling into a routine where all you wanna do is hang out with your SO. Before you know it, you’re permanently a “we” and no longer a “me”. Your friends haven’t seen you in weeks, and you can’t remember the last time you left the house alone.
Don’t Drop Your Hobbies
If there is something you loved doing pre relationship, keep doing that. Don’t drop it or stop going just because you’d rather spend time with ya hunnie. Keeping your independent interests running is so important, especially when you’re in the honeymoon stage.
I get it. Every free evening or afternoon is a chance to spend some time with bae. But abandoning something you love is an unnecessary sacrifice. Your new squeeze can handle one evening without you. And anyway, absence makes the heart grow fonder, right?
Always Find Time For Your Friends
If you used to catch up with your mates for Sunday brunch every week, make sure you keep doing that. And no, don’t bring your SO with you. It’s important to keep some of your independent life. Having some time to yourself where you can just do friend stuff rather than relationship stuff can be super refreshing.
You just might not realise it until you’re there. Maintaining platonic relationships is important when you’re with a new boo. And your friends will love that you’re still willing to crawl out of your love cave to spend some quality time with them.
Fly Solo To Events
It’s super easy to want to plus 1 you SO to everything you’re invited to. We get it, you want to show them off. Maybe integrate them into your friend group. But going to parties and events without them can be great. If you were invited alone, go alone. We promise you won’t explode.
Maintaining independence in a relationship is important. You don’t want to find yourself in a situation where you no longer know how to go out without your honey holding your hand. Spending time apart and bonding with pals or meeting new people can feel like a great little refresh button on your relationship.
Never let a new boo be the reason you stop striving for your dreams. Your goals and dreams are what really make you you, and you deserve to go after them. Sacrificing your independent goals for the sake of your relationship is unfair on you, and can lead to feelings of resentment towards your partner.
It’s totally acceptable to let your goals evolve to better fit your new life together, but don’t just abandon them all together. If there’s something you really want to do, your SO should support you, not be the reason to throw it away.
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