Relationships are great. You’ve finally found someone who you love and who loves you. It’s only natural that you want to spend as much time with them as you can. But inevitably the opportunity arrives to go out without your partner. Going out without them can often cause a bit of guilt, but this is unnecessary!
If you’ve become used to heading out with them, stepping out on your own can be intimidating. Or maybe your latest squeeze is a homebody, so they don’t love going out as it is. Regardless, going out on the town without your bae is going to happen, and I’m here to teach you how to do without feeling guilty for abandoning them.
Your Friends Need You Too
Keeping your own friends is important. And keeping up contact with them is important. There’s no guilt in taking time out of one relationship to build on another. And at the end of the day, one lunch/dinner/drinks session isn’t going to break your partner’s heart – as long as they’re a reasonable human being, given. Keep in mind that fostering healthy relationships with your mates is a key part of staying happy. Now go see ya damn friends!
Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder
Ever spent the weekend apart from your lover and as soon as you’re back together, you immediately jump each other? Yeah. Now imagine having that every week. Giving yourself the time and space to miss your S/O helps to keep the fire burning. No matter how in love you may be, there’s always room to detach and learn to miss them.
New Conversations Are Waiting To Be Had
There are some topics of discussion that just don’t come up with a partner. Whether it’s over brunch and mimosas, beers and schnitties, or an almond latte and vegan açaî bowl, some conversations are just better had with buddies. Air the laundry, complain a little about how lover leaves their undies on the floor; whatever you need to get off your chest.
Putting Yourself First Is Not Selfish
Giving yourself some time away from your relationship to spend time on yourself is not a reason to feel guilty. Relationships take two people to happen, and spending time working on yourself to be the best person and partner you can be can only strengthen that relationship. Stop with the guilt and allow yourself whatever time you need to do what you need to do.
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