Whether you’re freshly single or have been for what feels like an eternity, there’s no doubt it can be lonely at times. Especially on the back of a global pandemic that has made dating practically impossible. Yet it’s suddenly apparent that all your friends are loved-up, getting engaged or married, and that’s all that seems to be on your newsfeed these days. Your bed feels huge – a cold expanse of sheets.
But while I can’t promise that you won’t feel lonely being single, I can show you how to best embrace the single life and enjoy it. So we’ve teamed up with Lovehoney to help you get through those single nights, from someone who’s learned her way the past year.
Yes, it is a really nice feeling cuddling up to someone in bed to binge Netflix. Yes, sometimes you’ll want or miss that. Reality is, you have your whole life to do that later down the track. Being young and alone, now is the best time to do your own things independently.
Go to the library, a café (now that both are open), or even a gig when they start up again (solo if you’re brave!). Spending time with yourself and enjoying it is just part of embracing the single life. And when it comes to that freaky alone time, who knows you better than yourself?
If you’re not sure where to start, ladies invest in a ‘lil bullet vibrator – trust me, it’ll be the best recent purchase you’ve made. Gents, I haven’t forgot about you – this BJ Stroker (it’s a legit thing), will actually help you put down Tinder for a sec.
Travelling alone can be one of the most challenging and rewarding things you can do. You get to plan your own itinerary, you won’t get into arguments about which way to go, or whether that restaurant was too expensive.
I’m not saying it’s not nice to have company sometimes – especially if you’re in a restaurant and you’ve forgotten your book back at the hotel and your phone’s only on 11% battery – but the more you enjoy your own company, the easier being single becomes.
Yes, international travel is off for a while, but most states have now started to open up their regional and state-wide travel options. So jump in a car and hit the road, or team up with a few friends if you need some motivation.
Yes, I mean it. Now is a good time as ever to be selfish, to follow your aspirations and career goals. Your world is literally your oyster. Cliché, I know. But no longer do you have to consult a significant someone to move to a different city, go travelling or be spontaneous. This is a time for you to build your own career and future, based on YOUR wants and needs.
Own Your Sexuality
We live in a changing society, and I for one really appreciate this movement towards free-sexuality. You know those days when you wake up, look and the mirror and think “fuck I’m feeling myself today”? Own that feeling, and express your sexuality.
If it means buying a fierce bra-set that has powerful female written all over it – do it. If you get an awesome vibe a first date and want to go home with them – do it. If you want to talk to that attractive guy/girl at work – do it. All of the above respectfully of course, but being single is the best time to express your sexuality.
Accept That It’s Completely Fine To Be Single
Come any family event, you’re pretty much guaranteed to be asked the dreaded:
“So, are you seeing anyone?”
“Any nice girls/boys you talking to??”
“Do you plan to get married soon???”
And it’s completely fine to say no – even if it’s via Zoom. Like, hard no and will you please fuck off Auntie Karen. Well, maybe not that last part. But you get me.
While we can feel pressured to have something in the pipeline, and it can be uncomfortable, the answer is no. Yes, it can feel aggravating as it’s constantly asked, but chances are Uncle Joe has best intentions and is almost always pure.
Don’t rush back into the love scene, you want to be invested and 100% sure before you bring another significant other home to meet the family.
Being single can be one of the most rewarding times of life, and it’s the perfect time to explore your sexy side. Check out Lovehoney’s top notch store, full of toys, lingerie and lubes, for all those after hour specials hehe. Or go and read their blog for all things dating, sex and advice (students get 20% off, too). Happy experimenting!
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