Nobody said relationships are easy. Some are a bit rocky, others are straight-up destined for failure.
And, often, we’re too loved up to see that the relationship is 100% doomed.
We all wish there was some magic guide to tell us whether or not it’s going to be forever, or go down in flames. Is the high gonna be worth the pain? I suppose Taylor Swift might’ve been on to something.
But there are a few tell-tale signs to indicate whether or not you and your S.O. are going to stand the test of time. Send out the mayday call, there might be some casualties.
You Find Them A Bit Annoying.
You know that thing they did that you thought was super cute? Like how they would never put the lid back on the juice. Or they’d just leave it out of the fridge? You used to laugh at their forgetfulness and put it back for them, no worries. Then, after a while, you’d just grin and bear this habit. But now? It gets on your nerves. Now they’re just being lazy, and you’re mad about having eternally yuck, hot juice that ruins the rest of your day every time you pour a glass. Grrr.
You’re Reminiscing About The Good Ol’ Days All. The. Time.
If you find yourself scrolling through your old messages (from before you became offish) or first-few-date pictures, you’ve got yourself a big red flag. You’re more in love with the memories than with the person standing in front of you. You don’t connect the way that you used to and that low-key (high-key) breaks your heart, hence why you’re reminiscing on the long-gone honeymoon period. Tragic.
You’re Thinking About Other People.
The person that you choose to be with should be the person you pretty much can’t stop thinking about. They should be the centre of your universe, the proverbial Sun that your brain rotates around (but, of course, we’re not encouraging an unhealthy obsession here).
There’s nothing wrong with letting your mind or eye wander when you see another cutie in the street – you’re human, if anything, it’s healthy (just don’t act on it). But if you’re finding yourself daydreaming about a certain someone (or plural someones), it probably means you’re not feeling happy or fulfilled emotionally, intellectually, or physically, by your current boo. And, sadly, you’re keen to move on. You just don’t know how to do it.
You Want Space. Lots Of Space.
Imagine: you’ve just finished work and instead of wanting to talk to your S.O about the day you’d just rather not. In fact, you physically hurt when their name pops up on your phone with a text or a phone call. If you’d rather spend an evening with your mates than with them – or, tbh, you’d rather be alone – you need to abandon this sinking ship. At this point, you’re not only wasting your time, but you’re also wasting theirs, and you’re making it worse for everyone the longer you leave this resentment to fester.
You Don’t Mind If Things End
Maybe you’ve considered what it would be like to break it off. And, honestly, you don’t really mind. Like, sure, it’ll hurt a little bit, but it’s more like a paper cut than a broken bone. Much less a broken heart.
At this point, you’ve already tapped out. You’re already through a few phases of grief. Now you’re just in it for convenience, safety, and comfort.
Sound like you? It’s time to suck it up and get real. Your love boat is going down. It’s not the end of the world, and it doesn’t have to become a great tragedy. Talk to your partner and one of two things will happen: you’ll work things out together, or you won’t. And that’s okay.
Immediately, it’s going to suck, but bandaids are better to be ripped off and changed than to be left on infected wounds.
Let them down easy and give you both the best chance to grow, heal, and move on to better things.
Take control of your love life, folks.
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